July 19, 2018

Penetration is not the only route to pleasure, how skilled are you at using your hands?

Sex on a first date. I've done it often. I've also waited, for a variety of different reasons including fear of another's perception of me, desire to prevent additional vulnerability...

July 17, 2018

Check out a recent story I did here!

July 25, 2017

Erin is a sexual being, a vibrant powerhouse seeking to connect and thrive, and she loves her partner. She has been feeling pressure from her partner, her family and her own internal sense of guilt, to settle down and make life plans. While she knows the usual order of...

April 13, 2017

Understanding gender based arousal, in a general sense

March 14, 2017

Sexuality concerns and problems are hot topics in media and print right now. One of the challenges that you face is sorting through the problematic information, and that which is helpful or edifying to your life and needs. I'm happy to help my clients do that, but I'm...

February 25, 2017

I was having a tiff this week with a partner, and noticed some wicked crazy feelings rising up. Tension and strain turned to hurt and anger, which impacted my behavior and interactions with them. I reflected on the way that this plays out in the therapy room sometimes...

February 15, 2017

Dating one person can be tough, try to add a few more and it can be exponentially more difficult! So why do people do it? 

Most of modern society has built relationships around the concept of monogamy, partnering by twos to form long term sustainable partnerships (There...

January 11, 2017

Growing up in America in the last half a century, the parenting I received centered around making sure I didn't die. Teach me the basic skills to not do things that would result in severe harm to my body, make sure I can open cans of food and basic stove functions. Kee...

January 11, 2017

I was recently quoted in this article on pegging. While it's not entirely representative of my comments, it's not bad. How about you? What is it like for you to try new things? Is it more difficult to explore butt stuff as a result of the stigma associated? Another ben...

December 9, 2016

Therapy is old hat to most people, if you have not experienced it directly, you've at least seen dramatic portrayals of elongated couch laying sessions and the probing of your inner thoughts and feelings. Add the word sex before therapy though and suddenly understandin...

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